A little rant thread~ I'm curious at how many can relate

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So I've been thinking about something the past few days and I figure this is the best place for me to rant about it. I am an FTM I have not yet began hormones. All of my friends are very supportive. My friend circle is kind of a party bunch so I'm frequently meeting people and make not really close friends and acquaintances. This is relevent I promise.

My best friend is lesbian. A lot of the guys we meet at parties and such are usually somewhat decent, a couple I consider good friends but even among these good friends I've noticed that when it comes to my best friend, they are totally respectful of her disinterest in men, when it comes to me however, it's not at ALL the same. I am always making sure they know, "I'm a dude, even if my anatomy does not yet match that of one, I am still a dude, I don't want you in my pants." Now, there's been parties where my judgement is clouded and I end up regretting something because the guy is too dense to figure out what, "I'm a dude, I don't want you in my pants means." Now nothing TOO crazy has happened but I have noticed that my wishes are not respected and I just spend the whole time getting tired of reminding these guys I am not interested. For this reason, I no longer go to parties that aren't limitted to my very close friends. Is this a normal problem that I am encountering? It's quite aggravating.

[natkat]

`well...
I been hearing all this;

girl; sorry im not a lesbian
guy; sorry im not gay
gay guy; sorry im not into girls/trans
and im not interested in lesbian girls who just see me as female..
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it can be pretty messy when it comes to these stuff..
but dont give up...

I think people tend to be affraid of the unknowed, so maybe they dont mean it like this.. but even if they where attracted they tend to keep some distance..
if you know what I mean?
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p.s. I hope I understood your letter if I misunderstood the question then please tell me..

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Nahh you understood the question.

I dated a bisexual girl who referred to me as her boyfriend. But other than that my luck has been awful. I won't give up though. And yeah I think people understand someone as just being gay or lesbian more than they do trans.

[natkat]

`I guess we all have wierd experience as trans.

I would say I prefern bisexual guys who mostly into guys, (like you perfern bi girls)
I always tend to be nervous around gay guys, because I am a bit nervous about there reation when then notice im ftm.
(but on the other hand I hate to be into straight guys, and they never seam interested in me, or even if it stop when they notice im ftm..)

and I also got guys who refern me as "boyfriend" and sweet guy things.
I dont think I ever could be with a person who wouldnt refern me that way,
because the person wouldnt get who I am
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to make it short it all very messy.. and I think it pretty hart do be ftm on this way because people often dont really know you "exist"

I got so many people who tought I was mtf and was interested because of that but not when they found out I was ftm..

on the other hand.. when I told people I was trans they didnt belive me because im dressing up in boy clothes, and such thing. it also make the story pretty complicated..

but still it not imposible^^ and all we can do is try our best and be positive..
it pretty hard but the positive thing about me being ftm is that many gay guys are very attractive to me because of my "little-boy-look" I have since I havent taking T yet.. I think that pretty cool heh?

and as girls then it pretty positive that ftm know how it is to be female..
girls like guys who can understand when there sad, or in pain,
after talking with my female friend (who dosent know im ftm)
I notice that the reason why I might be good at comunicating, and girl tend to be into me is because I got alot respect and understandings for females as some of my straight guy friends might never really seam to get..

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Yeah there was a straight guy I really liked for a while. My friend talked to him and told me he said he'd like me more if I was more girly. In an odd way that made me feel great because, he didn't like me because he saw me as a guy and that made me feel awesome. So now we're like bro's and it's awesome. ^-^

Haha, I've actually thought about how I have the little-boy look and I'm slightly nervous getting on T will take that a way, because I like that. But considering my actual body build I think it'll just make me look more like a 19 year old with a little-boy look rather than just a 13 year old boy which I've been told I look like by many.

I see now there are a lot of positives in being trans when it comes to relationships.

[natkat]

`I got refuse from a ftm, saying, "sorry but if you had been a girl I would date you"
I also got refuse from a "straigth" guy saing he wasnt into guys,
but when everything got to everything, he turn out to be a bit unsure about his ------ety.. however he was still in the closet so he would never tell any of his friends he was with me,..
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