what to do for the one i love

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hi, i am new to this site. I came here with the intention of helping the one i love with this hard time. This person is transgendered and lives as a male and kinda hides the more female side of himself. Like others he feels the need to protect her and so do I because I trully love this person. My diffculty is that I dontt know the way to be there for both sides of one person and feel the same for them both. We do not act like we have anything in pubilc because our feelings started growing when he was being female. I dont like to hide things but for the love of this person I am acting like there is nothing there to sheild her until she is ready to live out in the open that way.

Basically all this is not new to me but this the first time for me in a sense. I need advice and some good support and ideas on how to help my love better and not sacrifise how we feel for each other. I am willing to go to the ends of the earth for this person and I need your help out there. Thank you and bless you all.

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Dear butterflyfriend,
I am not sure how you orientate yourself.
I am no expert, i am only able to go with my experience, it is very difficult for anyone to relate with someone who has two sides, regardless of gender or whatever.
With my own experience, earlier in my journey, i did have two sides, one wanting to be female and at the same time wanting to be honouring my male, in time however, out of my awareness, i dropped my male completely, i guess i unconsciously made the decision to be only female, and it has been very positive for me in the long run.
My female partner ---- in with me, after now, seventeen years, we are still in love with each other even though we do not do --- at all. My partner did not have a high libido, maybe this is why our relationship has lasted.
If you are young this is a very different kettle of fish, as, if your loved one is on hormones, eventually performance will take a back seat, in your ongoing relationship, and this is so difficult for anyone to advise you on.
I hope some other people will respond to your dilemma.
Hugs Jaye

Love is on every wave of humanity.