Seeking full time freedom!

[natisok]

Hey what's up? I have decided that I would like to live my life as a girl. I know how difficult this is.. so I recently quit my job. I'll be moving in with my mother in a few days. What I am really looking for on here is someone supportive. Id like to relocate and start over. I cannot do this on my own. PLEASE HELP


xoxo Natalie xoxo

[natkat]

`Hi Natalie,
first step on the road, and not the last..

a good advise is as you already to have contact with other transgender people to get advise from and share experience..=)

also good friends is great surport..
sure there is the thing about getting out of the closet and friends who might not suport, but if they do then it really great to have someone to talk to when you need it..

good luck Tony

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Quitting your job was probably not the brightest thing in the world to do. You will need things like MONEY for insurance, copays, doctor visits, lab fees, therapist fees ect. Once visit to a gender therapist will cost you 80-220 bucks. How are you going to pay for your insurance? If you do not have insurance, how are you going to pay for your medications? What about all the doctor visits? Legal fees in changing your name and gender? The smart thing to do would have been to SAVE money before quitting your job. My best friend did just that. Let me put it down for ya:

This is what she did, how do I know...because I was with her every step of the way.

(1) She legally changed her name. She had the court order but it means nothing until you submit it to the Social Security Administration and the Department of Licensing (DMV) and where ever you have your birth certificates ($157.00).
(2) She then found herself a gender therapist and started seeing her once a month and never missed an appointment ($80.00 a session);
(3) She got health insurance that covered some transgender medical procedures and hormones ($145.00 a month)
(3) She found an Endocrinologist and seen him every 3 months to monitor her blood (I forgot her copays for this) She also had to pay for the lab work because it was not covered but it was only like $80.00;
(4) She found and seen a primary care physician to do a complete blood and urine workup on her every 6 months;
(5) She SAVED MONEY.
(6) She started getting laser hair removal procedures done on her face and neck every 4 weeks ($200.00 a session)

I don't know about other states, but she had to see her therapist for 6 sessions before she wrote her a recommendation for hormones. It was a year before she *came out* to everyone. She is still my best friend and lives in Washington State. Once she *came out* she used that name change order to get a new license, she seen her therapist for a year and her doctor and therapist helped her change her gender on her driver's license. After a year she got her SRS surgery recommendation letters.

She then changed her name and gender on her driver's license, changed her name on her Social Security Card, and sent copies of that order to her high school, previous employers, the IRS and just about everywhere else you can think of. She then went out and got a NEW job as Erin. She started going to the University of Washington under her new identity and qualified for UW student health insurance which covers all procedures m including SRS, and had her surgery 3 months later. Her out of pocket expenses were $5000.00 with UW insurance. She then changed her gender on her birth certificate and SSA records. All this within 18 months.

Check it out yourself:
University of Washington Student Health Insurance Plan. GO TO page 24:
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me and her sat down and planned this all out for her. Now she has a good job and is working on her BA at UW. If she can do it, why cant you? It's all about PLANNING. Everyone she knew, including family, disowned her except me.

[msdelilah]

`I agree with mznatalie, you need a job. Your job may have been supportive and accept you as you are. Unless you already kniew that they would get rid of you. When I first started out, I started transitioning and people at work had to deal with it. But most were accepting. Now I work for a whole different company and nobody knows except the personal office and a couple of the top big wigs such as a CEO, and District advisor. They are very supportive and -------- about me. All others don't know.

[jenjen2k4]

`WOW! mznatalie: That was very informational. Thank you :-)