Dating is hell for me!

[benightedwillow]

I am a MtF transgender. I don't date men. I am not interested in them that way. I get alot of flack over this too. I was wondering if anyone had an idea of where I could go on the web to try to find a mate. I am ok with other Mtf's as I am with women. It's not about the sex, it's the love and companionship of the relationship. Though I don't leave the later out either.

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Hi,

There are tons of Mtf's everywhere. Try all the recommended sites here or Google transsexual dating and you will no dobut find what you seek.

I hope ths helps you somewhat....

Kisses,

Sheryl Anne

[cameronmichael]

I have similar issues being a gay FtM....People have trouble understanding that being transgendered and gay/lesbian is completely different, and a lot of times people pass me off as a "fag hag", however masculine I might be, (like I'm sure a lot of lesbians assume you're just a desperate man). It's heteronormativity and it sucks....And worse is trying to date as a gay man without a certain manly appendage (as most guys I know can't date without it)...but such is life...

I've heard of a couple of sites that host lesbian and transgendered dating; I can't think of them off the top of my head, but they are out there. It might help (when Googling) to try some specific searches. Look under MtF, lesbian, transgender/transsexual, butch/femme, or whatever else you can think of. You're sure to find something.

[redraven8953]

Sure Ive had a few one-timers come over and "wham bam thank you maam". but my real goal is to find a female as I am mostly a transbian,BUT I am a PRE-OP and no b--bs yet. I live FULL TIME and got my name changed. I look passable,maybe not to everyone, but mostly Id say because of all the "Maam's" I get from total strangers. Never the less,my bed is empty except for just me. No movie dates, no dinners, no luncheons, nothing but me. I HAD someone, but she didn't want a woman,so we've divorced, ever since then, its been nothing but this cold emptiness.
Too "guy" for a lesbian "because of..."
makes me wonder why someone said that SRS isn't about whether or not you have a vagina, apparently they were never in our shoes!

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[redraven8953]

Sure, there are lots of dating sites online, but all you get is: to submit your picture and write a few words about yourself, but then nobody can contact you because you didn't get the $29.99 per month "precious metal" plan. Its a damn joke to me. secondly, 100% of those sites only offer M or F as a choice of gender marker. sure i'll always choose F but then if someone actually does start to contact you, and you say "btw I am m2F " thats when u never hear from them again. Another instance is; the respondant will say "I'm curious". Well Gee I didn't know I was an experiment for you to be "curious" about. Am I a new and exciting product to "test drive" or just be a tester bottle to see if its right for you.
No, i am a human being that is vaginally challenged ,lol ,but seriously since when did I become a P.T. Barnum attraction???

In Most Darkness, we are Enlightened And Dissolved... SAB circa 2003

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It's nice to know I'm not the only 1 whose tired of being a "circus attraction."
I am an F to M who prefers men. Here are a few of the responses I've received after letting my date know what's NOT BELOW THE BELT.
Oh I didn't realize you were handicapped.
Why can't you have surgery and fix it?
Your so lucky to be both!
So how DO you have sex?
Can you have an orgasim?
In the end I think most of us are normal. It's the people who can't think outside of the box that are nuts! :

beta

[karenlyn30]

`I think I would find the "handicapped" comment the least offensive. I can identify with that.

Karen

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.I think people should do what they feel is right inside

[sexyalisa]

`Dating can be hell for me too. When some guys find out I am post op M2F they seem like they are disappointed, like I am shattering their 'chick with a ----' fantasies.

[thomasc]

.don't let it get you down not all of us would be shattered...

[sexyalisa]

`I don't let it get me down, but sometimes it can be quite disappointing.

[discordpart2]

`I'm sympathetic. I was using gay.com . . . I have 2 profiles, one that says male and one that says FTM. Guess which one gets me asked out?

And then there is that awkward moment in bed . . . or worse yet . . .

They embrace you fully and after months of living together . . . out of nowhere, they confess they miss the c*ck too much and can't do it anymore.

Honestly, that, I think, is the worst. And I fear I never even considered since he knew before (my roommate). So now I'm scared that even if they know and love you . . . it won't matter.

But maybe these trans sites will work better.

Although some of them are automatically set of to route FTMs to women and MTFs to men . . . and sorry, not all transsexuals are straight.

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`I almost got my hopes up before I noted the dates all of this was posted.
Hoping that you're still around... I get the same amount of scrutiny. I once had a MtF laugh at me when I said I found her attractive. Saying that "no transwoman would want to be with another girl." Near broke my heart.