Lost and need Help

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I met a woman bfore christmas i moved down south with her everting was great till now she is still in love with her dead husband after 3 years. I dropped everything for her and now she dont want much to do with me. She says ahe needs time I m sure she loves me and I love her but I dont know what to do. She wants me around but i wont see her much we both drive over the road. Please all tell mean what you think I should do. [/b]

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`Hi, that sounds really hard. I can't say i know what either of you are going through, but after my Dad died my mum had a lot of trouble moving on to other people no matter how much she wanted to be with them. it was like she felt guilty for wanting to be with anyone else. so maybe ask her to go to some sort of councelling and try and make it clear to her that you're not trying to replace her husband or make her forget how much she loved him.

It must be so frustrating to have taken a plunge for her then to find her not ready but my advice would be to take a step back relationshipwise and try and help her to find a good way remember her him without being stuck in the past.

I prbably wasn't much help sorry
Dani

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i don't know if you still wants an advice,,coz you posted this topic a month ago,,but here is my advice,,why don't you talk to her and ask direct questions,if she see a future with you and she has plans in the future the same as you,,then you have to fight for your love,,don't believe in the saying,,,'' if you love someone,,set her/him free,,'' coz that saying is bull----,,
all you have to do is to confront her about your feelings ,,talk to her about what you want in a relationship with her,,just have guts,coz life is too short,,we never know when or which will be be our last,,so better get your love and fight for it,do not ever take someone for granted,coz u never know when you might lose her/him,,and you may never get the chance to tell how you really feel,,,