Do Online Pesonals/Forums Actually Lead to Real Life Romance

[raistlyn72]

have you ever actually met someone on one of these things in real life?
were you geographically close to that person? or was travel involved?
did it work out?
did it fail horribly?

as i've never had an internet love affair i am fairly curious.

share your story if you have one, or know someone who has.

thanks in advance!

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`I know at least two people who met their online boyfriends in person--my sister and another friend. Like me, they're both from the Philippines.

My sister (a genetic girl) met her American boyfriend through chatting. After months of getting-to-know each other online, her boyfriend decided to visit her. So he packed his bags, took the next flight to Manila and traveled thousands of miles just to meet her. And when they'd met eye-to-eye, they just kissed, burst into tears of joy and embraced each other. It was like love at first sight! She introduced him to the rest of the family and found him very nice. The two had dinner dates, traveled around the metropolis and the countryside, and had great times together. He visited her thrice before he asked her, "Will you marry me?" Now they're happily married, presently living the US, and have the cutest baby girl in town.

On the other hand, my friend (a pre-op male-to-female) met her boyfriend on an online site. Her boyfriend was really excited to meet her and very eager to marry her and to retire in this country. So after several months, they both agreed to meet in person. For a few months, her American boyfriend rented an apartment here and she lived in with him. A few months after, they decided to get married. (But same-sex marriage here is illegal so they opted for the next best thing--Holy Union.) He loved her so much that he paid for her breast-implant surgery and other enhancement procedures. Now they're both living here together and have a pet dog.

Now who says fairy tales only happen in the movies? Well, these two people realized their dreams, and they are my inspiration in finding my own Mr. Right. I hope anyone who could read this may somehow be inspired in their search for true love. :)

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`Hello,

I did meet a woman that I met on a dating website. We are both from the same state, but different counties. She and I agreed to meet outside of her job at a pre-arranged time. Well, I was so excited that I left early. I go into town and I called her up. I let her know that I was outside waiting and for her to take her time, because it was a nice sunny Saturday afternoon.

Well, when she was done, she came to pick me up. She was a bit irritated, but I had to tell her that the buses that run on Saturday, run an hour apart. We then went to her favorite eating place, a public place. After we ordered, and she payed (I am a gentleman, but she insisted.) She asked me about myself and before I could get the first sentence out, she knew more about me, then I was willing to reveal, in the beginning.

Something told me to excuse myself and leave (she works in the Legal system), but I'm a good sport. In the end, she decided that she didn't want to be involved with me, thank goodness. But she did say, that she checked out her boyfriends, that her daughter had brought home to meet her and that her daughter left home because of the intrusiveness.

Needless to say, I don't want to be involved with a woman that can't or refuses to learn how to trust and will use her legal abilities to intrude upon my private information.

Not all potential partners or friends are like that. So, I wouldn't let my bad experience deter you. That's just my experience and my .02

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Yes its possible,i met a guy on a website and hes from Canada...we were in a long distance relationship for 8 months,and then he planned to visit me and stay for a few months.I personally w8 for his arrival at the airport and when we saw each other we kiss and hug for a long time...at first we stayed on our mothers house,i take care of him personally,i cook for him,i wash his clothes as in everything...but not all end up well,he always cheats on me and in our first months together i caught him coming out from a motel with a LB,i was so devastated and planned to break up with him since he was staying on our house...but he ask forgiveness and i did forgive him many many times though he keeps doing it...and this past few months after almost 3 years of relationship he wants a girl bcoz hhe wants a baby,but not just that,he wants the 3 of us(girl,him and me) live in 1 roof,which is i dont like, no matter how much i love him i cant take it,and he had relationship with a girl behind my back,so i decided to end this relationship...so now here i am looking for someone again through internet...like i said online relationship is possible but not all are happy ending :)

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`I havnt seen with TS and male relationship, but I am optimistic that someone will be lucky to meet her/his soulmate in the net :)

[j8o0e]

`Never tried the dating sites, but I did meet my first girlfriend on Yahoo! chat. Unfortunately I found out it was a bad idea to be in a relationship with the woman cuz she tried to stab herself AND me to death!

[kalelorn]

`I have a few friends and relatives that have ended up in love and marriage with someone they found online. Though most of them are not from sites meant for it My best friend liked talking to this one girl on his book club forum and he decided to meet her in RL after a year and they are now married and very happy.

I think it's a matter of finding the right types of people for the right reasons.

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`Dating sites like this have their uses and it is entirely possible to make friends here, even if only virtual ones. The thing I've found curious (thus far) about Trans Passions though is that it seems to suffer from the same problem as the regular dating sites like match.com. That is, there seems to be a large overabundance of guys to (trans) women. Also, as someone else in this forum noted, there are a a few too many ladies with no activity in over three months.

Alas, I suspect that as with regular dating sites the really attractive (and passable) ladies get bombarded by e-mails from hundreds of admirers. It's one of those situations that isn't good, bad, or ugly, it just is.

To be honest I hope I'm not entirely correct about this, but as generalizations go it seems to be true. Of course there are always exceptions to the rule.

The trouble is, the only alternative I can think of to Internet sites for meeting trans women is finding nightclubs that they frequent, albeit mostly gays bars. Of course this presents its share of challenges as well. Oh well, we live in a very imperfect universe. ;o)

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`I have had two succesfull relationships that have come from the online scene. i am no longer with them, our paths grew apart for various reasons, but we were faithful to eachother and had a great time with eachother when we were together. So i consider them successes, maybe not in the aspect of length. i think that it is entirely possible just as long as two like minded people can form a friendship alongside of their romance. Cause face it romance doesnt come through when you get in arguements. When romance and "love" isnt going well then you always have friendship to fall back on and keep your relationship together. You can "re-kindle" the romance later. So ultimately when you have two people who will commit you have two people who agree that things change and they can be supportive no matter what the future holds in store. Lets face it life has its ups and downs. As for crazy people i.e. people who excessively cheat, or try to stabb themselves and you, should get the hell out of dodge when that happens. Thats just to much. Just depends on what level you meet someone of like mindness on.

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`I have never had a successful. Relationship from a internet site but I'm open to it I see there are a lot of guys who want to meet with u but u never really know wat they want from u and its scarey because. Sumtimes people can be crazy ......I have been fortunate enough not to go through any crazy experiences I believe u can find love any where even on a bus going out of town. Tou just have to be cautious and open to it

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`I agree....