do transmen date T-girls??

[skootr]

`Hey there

I think it all comes down to the individual.
I met a transgirl in a club ages ago , and i had no idea she was trans and she had no idea i was trans until one of her gay male friends told her i was trans (mustn't have been passing to well that night) but it didn't deter her and i still didn't realize she was till much later on. Having said that when i realized i didn't think anything of it , i just saw her like any other girl it didn't change anything for me.

I just see myself who likes people regardless of S-- or gender .....if there is a spark or a connection i think everything else is irrelevant . when i was much younger i admit i was pretty superficial and solely seeked out interactions with people i found aesthetically pleasing but then i met some one who physically i didn't consider "my type" but her personality made me fall head over heals and with that came the s----l attraction. To that day I've been a firm believer of falling in love with my eyes shut . The vessel for the soul is unimportant , its everything else that makes the person that matters. Anyway .... just my opinion sorry if its full of cliches.

[susmitha]

i am a tgirl. i will be happy if a transman can date me. i will be the perfect woman for him. he can consider me and treat me as a real genetic female. i will consider as the male partner in the relationship.

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`well,,do transmen date tgirls?tell you guys the truth,,
i have friends who are entertainers in japan,coz i used to perform and already been set to go there in nihon few years back but it did not work out,,but my friend is still there and working in the club for few years,she is already post op,and she did not only date a transman but they are living together and got married,my tgirl friend is the guy and her transman lover is the girl in papers so their marriage is legal in japan,and this transman is the owner of the club where my friend is working,her transman hubby was already post op too,had his artificial c***,and they are now planning to own a baby,,but for me,i don't see a transman as my partner in life but it does not mean i am against it,it is just my choice,

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`I'm a transman in the USA - rural USA. And I'm looking for anyone who'd like a ltr with me and that has a -----, be that person a biomale or a MTF. I love men, but I also adore women. I don't know of any other FTMs. I feel alone here. All the guys that want to date me are way across the country or overseas (or married). And you're all right - the MSM seems to ignore us FTMs. For that matter, so does the LGBTQI community. I've been off this site for 1 to 2 years, but thought I'd give it another shot. Maybe I can find a mate, and if not, then maybe some new friends.

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`Interesting discussion. It reflects my own current dilemma.

Probably not until joining this site did I ever actually consider dating a transwomen. I mean, damn, have you seen some of the girls on here?

I actually have my first blind date with a tgirl today who I've completely hit it off with at an emotional level. Issues I'm having- (1) I'm use to dating shorter girls, as is many guys preference (she's the same height) and (2) I dont "botttom" during sex, and she's pre-op, so is this going to be a prob?

Other than that, I don't have any concerns. I enjoy the ability to talk about things with that common denominator present.

I'm curious to know why mtfs think ftms might not date them?

[kianaleilani]

yourbestbet wrote: Issues I'm having- (1) I'm use to dating shorter girls, as is many guys preference (she's the same height) and (2) I dont "botttom" during sex, and she's pre-op, so is this going to be a prob?


For what it's worth, both of the points you made are reasons that I'm not sure if a trans man would find me worth dating. I'm pre-op and I worry about whether I could be what he might be attracted to and find fulfilling se---lly. I know that's shallow because...omg how tired we probably all are of people concentrating on what's between our legs. Being m2f I'm used to bio guys fetishizing trans women and being completely obsessed with their bits lol, so it's quite funny that I then feel insecure about what a potential trans lover might think about the fact that I still have it. Personally being bottom is where I want to be mostly so I'm not sure being pre-op would get in the way of that, it does mean that I can't feel the way I want to when I make love though.

I'm a newbie so sorry if this was a bit too much for only my 3rd post lol

xx

[wosret]

`This is giving me a lot of confidence. I would really like to find a transguy. I would like to get to know some better. Wish there were more, and I knew where they congregated.

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`In response to Kiana,

Although we've decided to be just friends, the pre-op thing turned out not to bother me much. She ultimately wants to have surgery, but because she validated my maleness and the way she behaved didn't lead me to view her as anything other than female, it turned out not to be an issue. As with any partner that you appreciate, it just became an issue of satisfying them, just in a different way. It was surprising how much it didn't actually bother me. However, I cant say all transguys can get over this barrier; I think it comes down to self confidence.

At the end of the day, we just want somebody to appreciate us for who we are. Although I've dated straight cisgirls, they're not even my preference because they want to completely defeminize me, and truthfully, being socialized as female for so many years- I'm going to be a little flamboyant now and then.

If anybody wants to meet more transguys, there's a social network called TQnation. It's mostly transguys, but some girls are on there as well and no "admirers" are allowed (it's monitered). It's not a dating site, but an informational one. Still, maybe you'll get lucky and find the guy of your dreams.

Best-

[gourgegirl]

`Wow I'm glad this topic has been so beneficial for most I was just thinking about it one day, because I do have an attraction to transmen and yes all the sane debates did cone to mind I'm stuck in Australia and I cannot find any it's just a sea of M2F sisters

[natkat]

`well, Ftm is always harder to find, I guess we more easy "blend" into the crowd more easy... Im sure there is someone in Australia, seams unrealistical not to be.

[gourgegirl]

`Well I know there is I've met some but yes I think your right with blending I guess it would be easier to loose feminine traits then to loose masculine, but it's just so hard oh well keep searching I guess

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`And just my two cents, yep! I sure would. =) It would be nice to have that mutual understanding.