A thought on dating A T/G woman from a man who "gets it

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Hi how about another honest point of view. the "gets it" might have been misinterpreted LOL. A little background info might help explain some of the things I'm about to say. Sometime ago I met and dated a wonderful girl after a time and before becoming intimate she told me she was a post op T/G we got along great and I didn't see where it made any difference but it did lead me to investigate some sites that I found that were not ---- sites that actually allowed for learning about transgender people. After spending considerable time there and elsewhere learning eveything I could and making some great friends along the way as well as becoming a moniter in a chat room I would like to say it's quite possible for a normal straight guy to date T/G girls. I have various reasons for wishing to do so and I will freely admit some are a little bit selfish although I wouldnt consider any of them to be perverted or voyeuristic. number one I love feminine women and I have found most of the girls to be more feminine than typical modern day natal females and I dont think a T/G woman will ever take being a woman for granted like so many natal females seem to. Number two I think and this is only an opinion but it was formed from talking with a lot of different girls that a there will be a much higher degree of fidelity in the relationship (one of the selfish reasons) after transitioning a great percentage of T/G women have lost friends some family and probably spouses she will have first hand knowlege of what its like to be betrayed by loved ones and isnt likely to to break the bond of trust in a commited relasionship. Number three My personal experience leads me to believe in general T/G people are more understanding and willing to work at a relationship and much more comuacative open and dont play games also with a different perspective than a natal woman which makes communicating much easier whithout all the BS a T/G woman understands a male in ways no natal female ever could. Number four a a much greater likelihood of meeting a girl who will be a kind affectionate loving faithful smart full partner for a man who has taken the time and effort to learn about the realitys of what it takes for her to have transitioned what she in all probability has lost along the way who has thought long and hard about the problems and possable benifits of having a T/G woman as a life partner and is able to put the T/G womans past behind them and not feel any embarassment or give a damn what anyone thinks of the decision and treat her like the woman she is with family, friends, and every day life and number five is probably the most selfish reason of all but i can live with it a smaller pool of decent available understanding males to chose from means she knows how hard it is to find a man like that and she will never take that man for granted, I guess by now you probly figured out what I meant by a man who "gets it"

[tonimarie09]

`Thanks for sharing your viewpoints. I found it quite encouraging actually. Wish you and your SO a lot of good fortune.

Toni

[birgitta]

Hi Keith,

You call your reasons for wanting to date a transsexual selfish, but for me they sound like all the right reasons to date me and I would definetely be interested in a guy thinking like that.

love
Birgitta