Unwanted?

[danstar69]

Do you ever get that feeling that you are undesirable, unwanted or just alone.
That's how I am kinda feeling right now.
I haven't been on a date, or even (to use such an old, very conservative work) courted.
I cant remember the last time a decent guy was actually I interested in me, who actually wanted so ethic more than a quick shag, then bugger off.

Now, I know that quite a few people will look at this, and think 'oh look, another attention-seeking drama queen'. If so...go away.

I am more interested to see if other people have this feeling, then at least those who feel alone, have other people who understand, and well, be alone with them.

Dan xoxo

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`Dan you are not alone.
In my day to day life i come across some real arseholes! when i say arseholes i mean blokes who just want one thing and i suppose at my age that should make me feel good but it doe's not because if any person is interested in me then they can treat me like a human being.

The thing that pisses me off more than anything is living alone these people want 'only' to come to my home and 'not' actualy do normal things like a walk in the park on a sunny day or go for a meal ect , its just --- --- --- .

Its nice to see you post your thoughts because this forum seems dead and 'if' people read this it may just make them think being transgendered doe's not mean we are without normal human feelings , our lives are much harder than the so called norms and a bit of respect would not go amiss.
I truely hope things get better for you as you deserve better .

All the best Julia .

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`Hello, I know you posted this a few months ago, but I feel really compelled to reply. Your not alone. I feel exactly the same. I guess i'm just one of those people who is unlucky in love. It really gets me down sometimes. Everybody wants someone whose gonna love them and be thete for them. Just try and keep your spirits up. I hope it works out for you

Take care
Geoff

[jackkarl]

`Dan, do not feel that you are alone out there. I too feel the same way at times, and it does not help that my twin sister keeps telling me that all I need is a quick lay not a relationship. I love her so I tell her to butt out. I also have been having bad luck in love, I was courting a lovely lady at one time, but she ended it when she could not accept me for the man I am. all she saw was the female I was born. It hurt but I respected her and left with my head held high. But I know the right person for me is out there, I keep hope alive. Good-day my friend.

[cupoftea]

`Hey Dan, I know it was posted few months ago, and I hope you already Feel much better, and Everything is good with you, but Just in case, I want to let you know, that,again, You not alone ) Moreover, I have no luck with relationship, never had ) I used to feel very sad Because of that. When I gave up on it, I started to feel better ) I Study what I feel Passion for (You can call it - I found My Love) I have Friends, I have Set Goals I want to accomplish, So as long as my spent time is Productive I am happy ) At least it is better to be active and alone, than spending time with a wrong person )


Take Care ^_^

[suziech]

`Hi Dan. You are not alone, I feel just the same. Have not dated in AGES!! Lol. Like cupoftea said if you become active in other things then you may not be so alone or at least being something while alone. Doing nothing can make things worse.

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`hey we all feel like this, its hard on both ends for some i was in love with a tran and was dum maybe shy but wood love to try to ask her out but just didnt so may be some likes you a lot but they dont say or some time you have to wate for it but be sure it will happe sorry bad speller

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`Dan - I've never been on a website that can kill a guy's ego quicker than this one. Me - I have/had a great respect for the transsexual community as a third ---. I have studied the science, the laws, and have worked to gain an understanding of it, not only because it was interesting, but also to prove that this wasn't just a ------ for me, that I wasn't just another pervert looking for 'a lil something extra' only to have it spat back at me, have my looks insulted, and just all around ignored as though I have the plague - It is beginning to make me rethink.

For example, I just got a response to a message I sent weeks or months ago, not sure, I told someone they were attractive, to which they replied, 'You're not, sorry not into fat guys.'

So THAT'S what the problem has been?

I used to tell myself I respected the strength it took to stand up to popular culture and be who you felt you are, but that respect is quickly beginning to wane.

I once thought that the mind and spirit of a woman were trapped in a man's body, now I'm not so sure. I'm becoming more inclined to think the stick up everyone's asses has more to do with skewed ideas of how women are supposed to act, or maybe it's an ego rush to see how many people you can insult, and/or ignore in the course of the day?

Either way, yeah if you're a glutton for punishment and you want to have your ego kicked like a -------- puppy, then the transsexual community seems to be the place to stop.

When Julia left it only left a number to be counted on one hand who you don't have to knock down to get them to speak, much left have an actual conversation with.

My advice - Go to a hetro site if you value your ego. That's all I have to say on the subject.

Power of an Daghdha's heart be in you.

Slan go foill

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danstar69 wrote: Do you ever get that feeling that you are undesirable, unwanted or just alone.
That's how I am kinda feeling right now.
I haven't been on a date, or even (to use such an old, very conservative work) courted.
I cant remember the last time a decent guy was actually I interested in me, who actually wanted so ethic more than a quick shag, then bugger off.

Now, I know that quite a few people will look at this, and think 'oh look, another attention-seeking drama queen'. If so...go away.

I am more interested to see if other people have this feeling, then at least those who feel alone, have other people who understand, and well, be alone with them.

Dan xoxo



males aren't 'courted'. females are courted. Welcome to being a man. One of the things that always upset me as a man was that i was the title of this thread.

That's the thing about being a man. You aren't wanted for who you are but what you can do, or what status you are or what your job is.

Obviously you are a gay man so you can be wanted for who you are, by other gay men, at least, if not in the wider community. However, gay men can have --- with a different guy every week, or night or whatever. And being men, they will.

I'm not saying you won't find that special someone. I'm just relating what i worked out as a man.

I can't find a man who wants to be with me. They just want ---. I don't feel unwanted though. I feel included and wanted.

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musclegirl wrote: ...males aren't 'courted'. females are courted. Welcome to being a man. One of the things that always upset me as a man was that i was the title of this thread...

Wow! Thanks for saying it like it is.

My knee jerk reaction to this thread wasn't, "Oh, it's another drama queen...". It was more a curiosity that why a transgender would think they're alone?

Welcome to being a man. If you're a single man, you're the pretty much on the outside, and you have all the stereo types of "being a man" that work against you.

Not implying that trans m2f are guys, just saying your feelings of isolation are hardly limited to your situation. Speaking as a guy, I've always felt that way. Even after I got married, I never felt it was for who I was. It was for the security I offered, my status, my stability. It's far better to be ignored than used.

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`I saw a documentry about wilderbeast{i think} and on the special mating day all the males fight. The females c----er in the middle of the herd. When a male loses he is pushed further outwards in the circle. By the end of the day the males in the centre mate with the females. The males on the outside are so tired from fighting and losing that they lie helpless as they are eaten by hyenas etc.

A common misconception that females and ftm's make is that it's different for humans.

The fear for mtf's is that they may not be accepted into the female area in the middle. Male humans on the outer have the consolation of sitting around in the company of their fellows drinking beer in a garage.

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musclegirl wrote: `I saw a documentry about wilderbeast{i think} and on the special mating day all the males fight. The females c----er in the middle of the herd. When a male loses he is pushed further outwards in the circle. By the end of the day the males in the centre mate with the females. The males on the outside are so tired from fighting and losing that they lie helpless as they are eaten by hyenas etc.

A common misconception that females and ftm's make is that it's different for humans.

The fear for mtf's is that they may not be accepted into the female area in the middle. Male humans on the outer have the consolation of sitting around in the company of their fellows drinking beer in a garage.



Thanks for putting us in a garage. Lying around helpless outside waiting to be eaten by a pack of wild hyenas is a most disturbing thought.

Besides, mtf's have other mtf's to console with don't they? What about gay men? Better yet, what about bisexual men? That company of fellows has dwindled.

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naturist345 wrote: musclegirl wrote: `I saw a documentry about wilderbeast{i think} and on the special mating day all the males fight. The females c----er in the middle of the herd. When a male loses he is pushed further outwards in the circle. By the end of the day the males in the centre mate with the females. The males on the outside are so tired from fighting and losing that they lie helpless as they are eaten by hyenas etc.

A common misconception that females and ftm's make is that it's different for humans.

The fear for mtf's is that they may not be accepted into the female area in the middle. Male humans on the outer have the consolation of sitting around in the company of their fellows drinking beer in a garage.



Thanks for putting us in a garage. Lying around helpless outside waiting to be eaten by a pack of wild hyenas is a most disturbing thought.

Besides, mtf's have other mtf's to console with don't they? What about gay men? Better yet, what about bisexual men? That company of fellows has dwindled.



I was just agreeing with you with my last post. So whatever.