What was the most difficult part of your transition?

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Coming out to my family was hard, only a handful of my friends know right now.

The hardest part will be coming out at work.

[birgitta]

girl2doorsdown wrote: Let me just say that it is a true relief to have found a site with features like this.

TOUGHEST PART?

Dating. But more so, just meeting a person who likes me for ME, and not because of what is or isn't between my legs. The fact that there are people interested in me for the one thing I HATE about myself (my body) is a burden.

People have said, "Just embrace that you have a ----- and enjoy yourself". (They just don't "get it" though).

In some ways it is a blessing. That is, the perspective and insight gained from an experience like this. But it is mostly a curse. I cannot WAIT, until the day I have surgery and can move past this hurdle.



Ja True! Its a big dissapointment when you start living as a woman and the men that accept you want you to act like a man in bed. Also most of these men think we are totally ok with them beeing a transvestite too.
Every straight or bisexual transgender girl should be aware of this to avoid dissapointment.

I am very okay and comfortable with so called T-lovers as long as they are masculine both in person and in bed, and treat me right (as a woman).

But surgery wont save you from these situations, only knowledge and intuition can. They like transsexuals so they spot them a mile away. I have read and heard stories of post op transsexuals who dated guys that turned out to be dissapointed when they found out they had their
surgery done.

If more men knew how to love us, and were able to love us like they love normal straight girls, we would be much happier.

love
Birgitta

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`actually right now is the hardest time for me.. my mother is a pastor and its hard on her.. she is trying to accept me.. but she keeps going back and forth becuz she loves me but she also believes in god and all that.. so yea.. its hard but she loves me and she has not seen me in full yet..but i mean its not that much difference.. i have long long hair...i dont wear make up around her yet.. but my breast are growing and she noticed it.. but just says things like.. im not gonna get my son back huh? i always wanted a son and now i have two girls..and we laugh at it..but we went shopping for underwear to wear for my bf..and she gave me pointers..that was the best day ever..

[melly5]

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`Dating is a pretty difficult part. I mean, I've gotten past the surgery and even though that wasn't the hardest part (not to say that saving $8,000 for a round trip ticket to Thailand and one SRS), the dating thing still persists. It's hard for a transwoman to find a partner that really, truly gets it.

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[quote="girl2doorsdown"]`2nd Toughest thing?

" I turned towards the group of oblivious rock cleaner-upers and yelled at the top of my lungs in my best Army Staff Sergeant voice, "LOOK OUT!" "

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oh girl and you pick up a woman like the halk and saved her life.
look hunny you did a good thang but this s--- is too funny.

i just know me as a woman and a city girl i dont know what i would have done. and i defently wont even have had the strangth to pick anyone up.

its not about pride boo its just not natural for me as a woman to think i could even pick a woman or a man up like that.

but u do you sweety like i said you did a real good thing. its just too funny

Natalia

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The most difficult part for me was addmitting to myself that I was transgender and OK. I had been forced to live and forced to believe that I was not a gendered female. It wasn't until I was much older that I began to wonder if I would ever find myself. After some good analysis by a wonderful psycologist, I finally realized what had happened to me, and began to accept who I am. Since then, it has been like someone opened a door and everything began to make sense about myself. When I was very young, ( 12 years old )my parents sent me away to a boarding school. They did that because I was an embarrasment for them, and it was also a way to make me submissive. If I didn't live the way they wanted me to, then I would not be part of the family. Cast him out, let him think about it. Now, I say,,, how many of you would cast out your own child at that age? Lots more about that,,, but needed to say that much so that you get an idea how difficult it was for me to shake that off. Love this site, and I hope it has a long life.

[sarag]

`I'm just 8 months into hormones ...

[godzillaeyes1]

`Probably coming out to family and employers (It's pretty much red mark next to your name, once they sort do background checks) - My friends and acquaintance don't seem to care if I am a transsexual or not.

Dating already sucks for alot cisgender people, it really sucks for trans people, especially if you haven't reached post op status and passable (even then its hard for alot of people to accept such partner/significant other). It seems like you attract the worst kind of people, and you still find alot of people who don't accept as your gender. If you are a transwoman, you don't necessarily get treated like a genetic woman. With transman, I guess people may not treat you as a man or guy. Though as transwoman, I get several offers a day or week for ------ favors, but I've rarely people offer an actual dating premise or relationship with me. If you are a straight transwoman, I can see why dating can be very difficult. Even though, I am not heterosexual transwoman, it's still hard to find the right person.

Everything else can be quite easier than you think, you do run into some insensitive a**holes in the world, but generally most people won't bat a second eye at your, once you've gotten a little comfortable.

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The most difficult thing was finding the courage to open up to mum and dad. Mum is well-read so I confided in her first. While she was still upset, I think deep down she had always suspected that I wanted to be a girl.After she came to terms with the news, she supported me and she eventually told dad .Mum and I were convinced he would keel over , but I think we sometimes underestimate our parents. Dad took the news as well as can be expected. It took him a year to make sense of everything and decide he'd rather have me in his life than not..Now they are my biggest fans and both just adore me. Yes, have been so lucky on this front.

These days the most challenging thing is finding a guy to share my life with.It's still early days (on this site) so let's see......

Good luck to all who are transitioning or thinking of doing it.It's such a hard journey , but so ultimately fulfilling.I've been there and have come out the other end just fine .You will too.

Bianca x

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Transitioning can be hard, it takes a toll on mental, emotional, and even physical aspects of all our lives. Im learning as i go just how much of a toll it is taking, changing the way i think/act in so many parts of my life.

Be warned this is a long post, lol. but i encourage everyone to read it, and hopefully take something good out of it. Good reading everyone!

i used to play soccer for my high school, my first year i wasn't very good. However through out the years my skills got better, i started playing varsity games, even made 2nd team all-district player. i was a shoe in for a collage scholarship, in fact one of my friends who graduated last year and is now playing college level soccer told me if i really wanted to he could get me a scholarship to the same college he's attending. (all expenses paid, I.E. Tuition, Housing, Food, the whole shebang) it sounds too real to be true.

Now im not sure how im going to be apart of the team i helped build, my transition is not very far i started last may, but i can already see problems arising w/ my budding breast growing a little everyday. right now my team is doing conditioning and weight training, and i have not shown up to a single practice. im afraid if i go and sweat it would become obvious to everyone of my condition. My clothes do very little to keep my "headlights" from showing so i wear a sports bra and 3 layers of clothes to school everyday, and it really heats up. i want to be able to play my final year but idk how im going to get around my breast problem. my only thoughts are maybe binding certain times i have practices or a game. i still have till about october or november before the actual season starts and people really expect me to show up. i feel bad not being there while they all do sprints for an hour and a half (i know it sounds hard to actually miss something like that, but i do) there are plenty of kids who look up to me to lead the team this year, but i just hope i can figure something out before it is too late. ohhh what to do?






Michelle

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`so many all difficult but hardest for me was finnaly accepting i am a girl wanting to escape and who i tried to deny ignore all life, the
second and worst is now thinning hair that i want to grow or regain and grow if life is possible to become fulltime as longterm wigs not for me false or fake and knowing i can get hormones pills and develop the girl inside to the body she wants and feels
third is feeling a girl but looking male outside trying to hide femine feelings daily and not give myself away or slip up when out
forth a move for me area home makes family friends not know so i can live life full time and free as nobody knows me and i can just live till accepted or just enjoy my freedom to live as i feel
fith well thats hard learning all from scratch and admit i whish i had girl friends to help with tips and teach show and assist in those things all girls need to do and know that the guys always moan at when getting ready or being late
six is not difficult but hard at the present time is longing to dress up and buy clothes shoes skirts lingerie purses perfumes jewelry makeup all that lovley choices of teaxtres styles feels designs and tastes smells that i want like long to buy try have and wear
seven going out to clubs pubs dinner dates or daily dressed as i am and wearing what i like looking how i want feel and finding im passable or covincing as not to make other girls like me a look frieaks or be labeled or slander due to look and way i am

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`Hardest part for me? Coming out and transitioning at work. Not only as q transsexual, but a lesbian engaged to a woman as well. I have dated men, women, and transsexuals myself so basically consider myself pansexual, or gender blind. I don't mind what gender a person is, if I care for someone, I care for them no matter their gender But back to topic. Going through all the records changes with my new name and gender getting all my passwords changed all the while having to explain to everyone involved in twhe process. You see, I work with a multinational corporation in Alaska, and human resources is in Washington so it was a lot harder than just coming out in a smaller company

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`Hardest part for me? Coming out and transitioning at work. Not only as q transsexual, but a lesbian engaged to a woman as well. I have dated men, women, and transsexuals myself so basically consider myself pansexual, or gender blind. I don't mind what gender a person is, if I care for someone, I care for them no matter their gender But back to topic. Going through all the records changes with my new name and gender getting all my passwords changed all the while having to explain to everyone involved in twhe process. You see, I work with a multinational corporation in Alaska, and human resources is in Washington so it was a lot harder than just coming out in a smaller company

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I have been on hrt for nearly two years now and it's still difficult.
The most difficult thing was waiting for treatment.
Waiting six months for an intake, A two year waiting list to start psych talks, then the talks/tests once a month for six months.
All the time i already lived fulltime.
Telling people was difficult at first but the first two responded so well that the rest was quite easy.
Just be prepared to lose eveyone and you'll be fine.

But..., i rather focus on the BEST part of transitioning.
Like going to a girlfriend her birthday party and besides her and her husband and son, nobody having a clue that you're a ts and everyone just assuming you are a woman. (which you obviously are but, you know...)
At some point the conversation was about the fact one of the men there had a male firefighter as a masseur.
One of the other men fell into that convo and joked about a massage with a happy end and everyone laughed at him.
When he was told the masseur was a guy he went on and made a joke how it would be funny to have a beautifull female masseuse ask if you wanted a happy end in a deep voice.
A joke you will NOT make when you know there is a TS in the room that is a good friend of the birthday girl.
I thought that was quite funny.