Who I am not: I am not separation. Separation is only an illusion.
Separation from the God Source.
Separation from each other.
And separation from aspects of our self.
I am not secrecy. Withholding information from my partner & from myself.
With secrecy, my partner never gets to know who I truly am. Keeps me separated from the greater portion of myself.
I am not conditional love. I will love you, only so long as you fulfill my needs and expectations. I will withdraw my love, if you do not satisfy me.
I am not Expectation. I want, expect, and try to get my partner to fulfill my expectations and needs. I use my partner to satisfy my needs.
I am not manipulation. I use obvious or hidden manipulation so that my needs will be met, and so that I can remain protected from my own fears. I only see my partner as who I need them to be, not who they really are.
I am not dependency. I depend on and need someone
outside of myself in order to be happy.
Now I will introduce you to who I am!!
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I am Integration, and reintegration. Everything and everyone are really all connected.
I am honesty, and openness. Total honesty with my partner.
With honesty, my partner gets to know who I truly am. Honesty means being 100% who I truly am.
I do not withhold a comment or information just to avoid hurting my partner, or to control the relationship.
I can never really know or predict what will hurt another or how they will react to my honesty.
Therefore, I should stop assuming responsibility for the other person's emotions, growth, & reactions to my honest non-manipulative communications.
I am no expectations. I trust and have no expectations from my partner.
I enjoy my partner, but without expectations.
I am allowingness. I allow my partner to be who they need to be. Only then can I see who they truly are.