Does liking a transexual make a man gay?

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Well, yes on second thought I suppose you would call them bisexual rather than exclusively gay. I still think men -------- attracted to Trans women are attracted to their ----- . I suppose if they are also attracted to genetic women, then bisexual fits. If they only want --- with a pre-op TS, I would say they are more gay than either bisexual or straight. So I guess it all depends on the specific individual.

[godzillaeyes1]

nikkidane wrote: I'm a 4 1/2 year post op TS. I've come to the conclusion that men that date Transgender women want a ----- 99% of the time. Are they gay? I would say yes. I think they are a subset of the gay community just as drag queens are. I think it could also be classed as a ------ fetish.
Dating as a post-op TS has been difficult to impossible to find a man not only interested in ---. I'm a fairly attractive, intelligent, Trans woman with many great qualities and yet my last guy dumped me without even a text message and started dating a pre-op Trans woman not on hormones with big b--bs and a big ----- who charges him for ---.. How humiliating is that?
Guys that I've met that are into TGs want b--bs and a d*ck, the bigger the better. Usually they want to perform oral --- and some want to be topped.
That is why I say they are gay. They often are attracted to effeminate gay men as well once they get started with TGs so they may be repressed homosexuals.
For me personally, I want a man to be attracted to me and love me in spite of being Trans, not because of it. I'm afraid it's never going to happen but I'm readyu to deal with that reality. I have no regrets about having SRS. I have decided to focus on making quality friendships and screw finding a boyfriend. After SRS and at age 59, my libido is pretty much non-existent anyway.

Nikki


I'm thankful that you shared your story and was very open about it. I really wish you can find happiness as much as possible. It's going to be really hard, but it's a part of everyone's journey, both trans and cis.

Yeah, I think I'm somewhat lucky, because I'm not attracted to men in general (I would date the right kind of guy) as a pansexual with hints of asexualism.

Though for most part, most men are the same, especially the ones that approach or desire transsexual women. It's typically with preference for pre-op or non-op transwomen with surgical enhancements. It's almost ironic that you never hear people fawning, glamorizing, or making mythology of a post-op woman or even non-op individuals who haven't quite started hormones or living as their real ---. On my behalf, it also hurts that I don't have natural chemistry with men - chemistry equates romantic, intellectual, emotional, and even personable connection. It's much harder to gather content that comes alot more natural and easier with (trans/cis) women and others. I think it would work if I could channel in my --- zombie controls.

It sort of marginalizes our experiences, while dehumanizing us in the worst way and throwing us into rigid stereotypes.

On my behalf, even as pansexual who is open-minded, I still have hard time find dates and companionship. People just aren't knowledgeable of my experience as pansexual or trans person. I get the sense and people have told me that, "Oh, why did you become a transsexual, if you don't want to be with men (especially --------)." Everything seems to be centered around men, sort of like being gay. It's odd for people to see an MTF transsexual who has a stronger preference for women and other genders-trans, genderqueer, genderless, or intersexed. It seems the ------ity or preference don't seem to matter as much, and more times than not these parties are potentially as interested in you regardless if you are pre-op or post op/

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My view is very simple. I see myself as a female regardless of what I may have down there; I think, feel and react like a girl.My identity is female. If a guy is interested in me, then he is interested in the sum total not just my biology.To say that he is gay is to also conclude that I am a male which I'm not at all , never have been.

Bianca

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i dont really think most men that have dated me were "gay". most of em said they jest wanted to try it. it is like a --- fantasy thing 4 them i think. a couple of em r married so i know their straight. i live with a older man rite now and he isnt gay he jest likes a person like me. he want me 2 dress up and be hella feminine jest like a women. he was married 4 32 years and never went out with a gay man.

[brittneylacey]

If you can hate whomever you want to hate, then you can love whomever you want to love.

While procreation may be related to gender, love is not.

[capsone]

how cares.. we are humans with feeling and hormones and pleasure with happiness is with another humans .. doesnot matter if man, women or trangender.. besides trangender relationship would be fantastic..

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Yes .... if you have to ask if being yourself and liking what you like makes you "GAY" then you got a lot of learning and self exploring to do. You more than likely have not found yourself. Me personaly, I have inclination to gravitate towards people who know who they are and have confidence at the very least in that.

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`Gay, straight, bi-sexual, I've never been to big a fan of these archetypes. I think if you're attracted to whomever you are attracted to, that's just the way it is. Doesn't need to labeled gay or straight or whatever. That's just me though.

[poisonismycure]

`It depends... If you are a man and identify as male and are dating someone who is Female to Male then Yes. if you are a man and you are dating someone who is Male to Female then No. it's all about the end results. I prefer the archetype of ------ it's concise and self-explanatory I have no gender preference it makes life so much easier that way. if I like you and you like me that's all that matters.