Why transsexual dating websites are frustrating..

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`So wouldn't this be a place for men interested in trans women to come and enjoy the communication and company of them? After reading this post I am not sure whether or not I am welcome here. I didn't think I would be offending anyone or walking into something other than a pleasant experience.

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`There is a an art to relating to us. Unfortunately most people get their information about us from ---- and from television. These mediums objectify us and give people the wrong impression. Personally if a guy walked up to me and called me a transsexual, she-male, gurl, or she-he I would rip his lips off and superglue them to his ass.

If you wouldn't use a particular word to describe or address a bio-female then you shouldn't use it in the case of a trans woman.

I can't speak for others, but I am a transsexual who experienced gender dysphoria to an extreme degree. I also experience a degree of body dysmorphia, which is to say I have a part of my body that I feel doesn't belong. The problem with many people who are interested in [particularly] pre-op women is they don't understand that though we may have a ----- doesn't mean we want it messed with.

Women such as myself have to be careful. I find that I am very defensive and suspicious of men - ask my boyfriend, it took weeks if not months before I gave him the time of day.

Last piece of advice: If you don't know try doing some REAL research on your own (books, if you have access to research databases, etc.) or ask someone, but be prepared for a defensive reaction - it just comes with the territory. Good luck!

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`SO true! A while back, I had an online relationship with a passionate young Greek fellow named Michael who fequented the same poetry site I do, Deep Underground Poetry, a British-run poetry site that caters to deeper, darker styles of poetry and short stories. I love to write, and have published 271 works there, so on that site I am a bit of a celebrity. They often tease me and call me the Lady Gaga of poetry. But back to my story about Micahel - the handsome fellow was quite charismatic himself, and he emailed me several times. We starterd out talking about computer programming, coding, and other interesting things, but then suddenly he just blurted out that he wanted to have --- with me. We ended up having cyber sex, and I was very smitten with him after that, but when I wrote a poem dedicated to him and posted it, he said that his relationship with me "embarassed" him because, in his words, I'm a "Tra**y". I told him I expected him to treat me as what I AM: a woman. But he said it was only ---- with him, and that he thought it was only ---- with me too. I told him I was falling in love with him before he pulled that on me, but he just laughed that off, said to me: "Too bad, life's a b**ch!* and acted like I wasn't even worth his time. He then said he was bigoted against Trans Women and felt we were like prostitutes. So I said to him: "Life's a b**ch, but so am I!" and to get revenge on him I posted the entire chat records of our cyber --- sessions on the public forums to really show him what embarassment feels like. It turned out, he had done the EXACT same thing that he had done to me, to 40 other Trans Women and so under British law the admins put a gag ban on him, banning him from the forums and chats. That way, he could never do that to another woman again. I cannot abide men who do not respect women like us. We are women, first and foremost, and people do need to bear that in mind when dealing with us.

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`I wish there more brave cisgender women who wouldn't be so afraid to participate on this site. But, there is always bisexual passions. I frequent that site more than I do transpassions. THere's bigger variety of people to be found.

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`I have never met any transgender/transsexual people, but i think i know how they feel when just hit on for a --- thing. I am playing in Xdressing and just that alone most just want --- and not looking to be friends first. I think you as females look great and if i ever had the chance to be friends with Trans Women, i would be happy just to be friends. Hope i don't offend anyone by this comment.

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`I dont mind making friends and having it grow ti either --- ir just friends. Are transsexuals a ------ to me- not as much as when I were younger. Am I a chaser, no. Do I like the fact that transpeople have oposing parts to what they are, yep. Outward appearance is just as important as inward and believe what you want but not many people will stick around because you are on the same level mentally if they dont like whats under the clothes as much as under the skin. Thats just life. There are men who want you for your d--- and others who want you because you have it.

I like men and women trans or not. Is it a plus that you are preo-op, to me it is, unless we dont get along. You could have the perfect body and willing to go to the break of dawn. But if you dont agree with my religion or joys of reading or vehicles or music, the other s--- is a moot point. No mental connection makes even the sexiest woman ugly. Ive been through that. The --- aint worth it. I do date transpeople. I put everything foward on dating sites. Im here for friends witdh benefits, that means talking becoming friends hanging out in public and --- every once in a while. And not in a trench coat with the collar flipped and a fedora pulled over my face. I mean plain day lets go meet my friends type of go outside.

Call me a chaser if you want, im more than that. Its called preference, like; I prefer transwomen or I prefer bigger women. I dont like women under 140lbs and sometimes i dont want a vagina. Just like I dont like hairy men. That doesnt make me a. Hairless man chaser.

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