What's it like?

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It's shocking.

You get thrown into another world if you do it right.

Before you know it everyone is, "mamming" you and you're an entirely new person, and yet you wake up still and forget about it sometimes.

Your mood is amazing.

Everything is great about it.

And I'm lovin it.

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tonibridges wrote:
Before you know it everyone is, "mamming" you


It's a really great thing to be called ma'am. It's a little thing, but it does a lot. Congratulations on going full time.

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`Getting called "ma'am" was great at first. Then I got called "miss." Now get called "ma'am" just makes me feel old. lol

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`nobody has ever called me ma'am. only miss. :[

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`nobody has ever called me ma'am. only miss. :[

[danya]

`Exactly as tonibridges said, thrown into another world. Before long you are passing without trying and getting doors opened for you. Ma'am and Miss I think might be a regional thing. You get dear, honey, sweety all the time, I have even got sweetpea lol. But there are tradeoffs too: you wake up happy but at some point usually contend with makeup; you see confusion in the circumstances where you must reveal your genetic S-- such as in hospitals, which get to be annoying; and most importantly you will not be taken as seriously as a woman, your opinion will have lost some value and it will be difficult to take charge if men are around.

But for me the bad things are annoyances. I wouldn't go back (couldn't) ever.

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`Congratulations to all of you women who have had the courage to become the wonderful people you were meant to be in life.

[kimphne]

`"What's it like?" It's liberating. Shocking? I disagree. For me it was a "coming home" to who I actually was (am).

It's not easy. Along with the "madams", etc. there is "------" & so on. And as danya mentioned, there are the awkward, uncomfortable, hurtful & necessary disclosures. I believe that the mainstream population are often intimidated and confronted by transsexual women. That, by our very existence, we challenge conventional perceptions of gender and humanity.

Above all, it's worth it.

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`My experience is different than anyone I know. I have lived in a very small town in an extremely conservative area for nearly twenty years. Literally everyone in town had known me for years before I went full time and began my transition.

I expected a huge amount of push back and negative reactions. Surprisingly it has never happened. I think a number of factors have contributed to that. One is that they have never encountered anyone like me and have no preconception of how to deal with a transsexual. When I was looking for a doctor I talked to every doctor in the county who was actively practicing and not one had ever treated a transsexual although a couple were welling to learn on my dime.

Secondly, from the day I publicly came out, nobody ever again saw me in drab. For most people it was an instant and complete transition so there was little confusion. I just completely integrated into my new role and went about whatever I needed to do with no sign of hesitation or embarrassment. Looking back I'm amazed I was able to do that, but everything seemed totally natural to me and I fell into a lot of feminine habits and mannerisms without even consciously thinking about them.

Thirdly, as a woman I am infinitely happier. Happiness is contagious and everyone recognizes how much happier I am now. Many people told me how much more I smiled and laughed. Sometimes they still do.

Whatever the reasons, I am totally accepted as the woman I am. Everyone always uses the correct pronouns talking to or about me. The only pronoun issues I ever had were when traveling out of the area and those were rare. Nobody has had to be told more than once the proper name to use.

The only advice I can share is just be yourself. Do it with confidence and self assertion and you will be amazed how much easier it will be than you think it will.

kisses

Carla

[ila]

I wouldn't say shocking... it just feels right to finally be. Much of it has been anticipated by me and I haven't been surprised by too much; it could be that I never fit into the man's world and always had female friends.

I had worn a beard for years to hide behind and once I shaved it off, before I even seriously thought of transition, I started to get "Ma'am". It is really gratifying to get it all the time now.

I was stopped for a seatbelt violation recently and the officer treated very nicely, addressing me as "Ma'am" but when he returned with my license (with my male name and gender marker) his whole vibe had changed and he was much colder. That was an odd experience!

When I'm feeling well and dressed well I am happier and everyone around me tells me that I just look so cute. I get bubbly and everyone just reflects joy back to me. It is also wonderful to get attention from men for the first time.

Overall, this has been a blessing and so much the right thing for me.

Ila

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`Living full time as female is like a hot fudge sundae . I absolutely love it...I finally am able to be the girl I'am. I hated having to hide my true self and being forced to live as the boy...ive been depressed from it and I've been to the hospital many times cause i tried to commit suicide, but now I know there is hope that i can transition through my womanhood and be the beautiful female I'am. My family is extremely supportive of me and i feel very blessed for that. I finally am able to be known as the daughter in the house and be called she for the first time. It makes me feel very happy that I'm able to be my true self and not be shunned by it.

[curi]

`Wow, thanks for these wonderful stories. You make me regret that I never moved forward.

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`Honestly I was lucky, I passed as a female even before I started transitioning mostly because I perused a career in cosmetology. Even before I started taking hormones or anything they called me Karen and introduced me to clients as Karen. It was the best thing I ever did, i've never felt happier and my co-workers treat me as a human being. I don't feel scared anymore

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